My reading of the situation is the EU are milking the Irish border issue until the last minute hoping to extract maximum concessions from the British. The British are holding their ground a stand off is happening. But ask yourself this ? Will a small amount of cross border farm produce (across the Irish border) result in a no deal with all the implications for trade across the EU and UK including germanys massive manufacturing industry with vast markets in the U.K. Maybe ? But I can't see it more theatre to follow but a deal will be done. Both sides agree other than the Irish border the deal is almost complete and was almost completed this weekend. I may be wrong but let's see
Pretending the Irish border is a non-issue will not make it go away.
It's the EU,s main lever once it's no longer useful to the EU it will return to its rightful place as a total non issue. Unless the cabbages and potatoes going over the border are the engine room of the European economy even you are not going to claim that surely ?
The border issue is a huge concern to the people of Ireland. Britain made a commitment to provide a backstop and you are simply being asked to honour that commitment.
Trying to blame everyone else but yourselves won't make the problem go away.
After today you now have a dead duck PM no feasible Brexit strategy and a parliament that is more divided than ever.
Who's fault is that?
Personally I blame Corbyn