Bans should be given retrospectively. If a player says he was pushed/tripped then by all means give the freekick or penalty if you believe him. If a video evidence panel decide the next day that there was no contact then a 12 match ban and 1 month's salary fine should be enforced. The penalty for cheating must be a strong deterrant.
Totally agree on this one.
Also, the fourth official in the stands should have the benefit of a video replay. The ref is miked up so the fourth official could have a look (it doesn't take long) and let the ref on the pitch know which way to go. I doubt it would interfere with the speed of the game!